Handle Hard Better

Whether our students are athletes or not, we help them daily to prepare for “going pro” in whatever careers they choose. And even beyond career planning, these young NCAA athletes also teach us and our students how to tell our own stories and build our own resilience.

It’s that time of year when March Madness seems to be on everyone’s mind, undeniably the best time of the year. Whether you work at or attended one of the schools represented in the 68-team men’s and women’s tournament field or are a fan of the underdog, you can hope to see another one of the great runs of recent history by teams like Saint Peter’s University, Florida Atlantic University, or Loyola University Chicago. This year, little-known Oakland University put itself on the map—in the metro area of Detroit and not in California—by eliminating the University of Kentucky from the tournament as No. 14 seed.  And No. 11 North Caroline State upset Marquette and Duke, teams more favored and higher seeded, to return to their first Final Four since 1983. 

There could be countless reasons why so many tune in at noon on that first Thursday and follow the tournament through to the Final Four, join groups of friends and co-workers in filling out brackets, and take time to learn about the lesser-known schools and mascots. However, for me, it’s the thought that anything can happen in two 20-minute halves of a basketball game. The tournament displays the players’ resilience, hours of preparation, and love for basketball and for the schools involved. Although controversies around name, image, and likeness (NIL), sports betting, and lucrative media contracts mean that the competition may not be as pure as it once was, I admire the celebration of talent and accomplishment in men’s and women’s basketball for these three weeks.

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Resilience and “holy grit”

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Published in January 2018

A recent piece in the Chronicle (“We’re teaching grit in the wrong way,” March 18, 2018) suggests that by focusing on the development of self-control, we are missing the importance of the cultivation of virtues such as compassion and gratitude as these may go further (or is it deeper?) in helping students achieve the needed “grit” to succeed in college and beyond. The author, David DeSteno, is a professor of psychology at Northeastern University who works on “the science that underlies human virtue,” and the piece seems to promote the key claims of his new book, Emotional Success: The Power of Gratitude, Compassion, and Pride (Houghton Mifflin Harcourt, 2018). Not surprisingly, given his discipline, DeSteno’s analysis emphasizes the psychology of self-control, yet in nudging us to consider gratitude and compassion something even more fundamental (or is it more encompassing?) seems to be missing. In DeSteno’s hands, developing strong interpersonal relationships and the ability to cooperate helps ensure “long-term success.” Students will have increased perseverance as well as a reduction in stress and loneliness and “enhanced well-being” when they can work toward a long-term goal.

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