May Their Memory be a Blessing

Following their respective deaths in August, the news recently has included remembrances of Aretha Franklin (1942-2018) and John McCain (1936-2018). Through various tributes, we get a sense of their lives as well as their social and cultural significance. This has been followed by commentary about what makes for an appropriate way to remember someone after their passing. (Is such second-order critique inevitable or is it another symptom of our cultural divide?). We learn something about our collective life in these moments.

Whether it is an internationally known figure, a “local hero,” or a beloved colleague, reflecting upon how we remember great men and women can be instructive. Eulogies are an important form of articulating what we understand to be a good life. 

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Aretha Franklin, already known as “The Queen of Soul” even before she died, has been remembered for her incredible musical talent. She possessed “one of pop’s most commanding and singular voices,” as Rolling Stone magazine put it, a voice “that could move from a sly, seductive purr to a commanding gospel roar.” Others highlighted how her songs became powerful anthems for the civil rights and feminist movements of the late 1960s and 70s.  More biographical treatments explored the significance of gospel music in her life, and I enjoyed learning more about the role her father, C.L. Franklin, a famous preacher, played in helping launch her recording career.  I’m sure I was not alone in revisiting and savoring many of her songs in the days following her death.

Kimberly Atkins, chief Washington correspondent for the Boston Herald who penned the Herald’s obituary for Aretha Franklin, shared on Twitter that “as a Detroit girl,” she felt like she had lost a family member. Atkins went on to tweet the following, capturing what many appreciate about Aretha’s seemingly undaunted strength and independence:

What I love most about Aretha is that she was always unapologetically who she was. She took no gruff from anyone. And she certainly didn’t work for anybody. She graced us with her gift. And we were privileged to receive it.

John McCain on the campaign trail in 2008. (Photo: Robyn Beck/AFP/Getty Images)

As a political figure Jon McCain’s legacy is unavoidably contested, but people from across the political spectrum offered laudatory words in the days following his passing. Most emphasized McCain’s integrity as well as his brand of independence. I learned that it was John Salter, longtime aide and co-author of several of his memoirs, who first dubbed McCain a “maverick” in the 1990s. The moniker has stuck and it is most likely how he will be remembered in the years ahead.

For those who disagreed with McCain’s politics, praise often came with a disclaimer, something like “although I didn’t agree with his policies….”  Given the prevalence of this tendency, I found Jeffrey Salkin’s reflections about such qualified memorializing compelling. Relying upon the disclaimer, Salkin speculates, “is not only the fear that we will be ‘tainted’ with the wrong political association. It is also a form of virtue signalling, of moral preening.” He concludes his piece by instructing his readers:

As we approach the Days of Awe, let us resolve to engage in hakarat ha-tov — mentioning the good that people do. There was so much in the life of John McCain that was good, decent, and holy.

Let us lift those elements of his story up, and let us turn them into a prayer.

Eulogies for political leaders can be grand (and, yes, political) occasions. As Lucy Williams, a professor of political science at Brigham Young University, reminds us, the practice of an official funeral oration stretches back at least to the ancient Greeks. We know a great deal about the genre from Thucydides: they were delivered  “by a prominent public figure—someone who… was ‘chosen by the city’ for his ‘known ability and high reputation.’ The speaker’s goal was to comfort the grieving, reassure the skeptical and rally citizens who might also be called to serve—and perhaps die for—their country.”

Meghan McCain, former President George W. Bush, former President Barack Obama; Pablo Martinez Monsivais/AP (source of image).

Tracing this history, we can see that, “Like Pericles and Lincoln, Meghan McCain and Obama offered remarks that were at once conciliatory and provocative. Both used the funeral podium to challenge, critique and endorse specific political actions,” Williams writes.

Eboo Patel has shared that he was most moved by the words of former Presidents Bush and Obama, as they expressed their admiration for McCain, and especially for his ability to work with people from both sides of the aisle in Congress. Patel has also suggested that it could be a useful exercise to have students compare the two speeches, and to ask them to consider such questions as the following:

Are there people who you disagree with but still admire? (Another way to put this: Is the only way to earn your admiration to agree with you?)… Which of the people that you disagree with would view it as an honor to speak at your funeral? What would you want them to say? Are you treating them in a way that they would likely accept the invitation and say the things you want them to?… Are there people you disagree with who you could nevertheless benefit from engaging with a bit more? What would it take to make creating that space a priority? If you do this, would people in your identity/political group view you as a traitor? Are you willing to take the risk?

Patel believes that these questions can help foster some needed conversations about how to fruitfully engage and negotiate our political, religious and other differences.

In a future post, I will further explore the importance of eulogies and how we can mine them for the purposes of helping students reflect on their meaning and purpose.  Often it is the honoring of our “local heroes” (family or members of our community) that more directly inspires us to be better and so I will turn my attention to the eulogies that we might encounter in our workaday lives.

For now, let us remember and be inspired by these American giants. May their memories be a blessing.

Hannah Schell was a professor in the Department of Philosophy and Religion at Monmouth College in Illinois from 2001-2018. She is the author of “Commitment and Community: The Virtue of Loyalty and Vocational Discernment” in At this Time and In This Place: Vocation and Higher Education, ed. David S. Cunningham (Oxford University Press, 2015). Currently the Online Community Coordinator, she is also a campus consultant for NetVUE. 

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